Bible Verse of the Day

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Day 21 – Protecting your church


It is your job to protect the unity of your church




Unity is the soul of fellowship. Our supreme model for unity is the Trinity. If you are part of God’s family do everything possible to preserve the unity, protect the fellowship and promote harmony among all. Nothing on earth is more valuable to God than His church. (I suppose your immortal soul cannot really be labeled as ‘of this earth’)




+ FOCUS on what we have in common; not differences

As believers we share one Lord, one body, one purpose, one Father, one Spirit, one hope, one faith, one baptism and one love. – The same salvation, life and future – these are the issues we should concentrate on. God wants unity not uniformity – we must stay focused on learning to love each other as Christ has loved us. When we focus on personalities, preferences, interpretations, styles, or methods – division always occurs.


+ BE realistic in your expectations

Longing for the ideal while criticizing the real is evidence of immaturity – settling for the real without striving for the ideal is complacency. We must passionately love the church in spite of its imperfections. People become disillusioned with the church for many understandable reasons. Because we’re sinners, we hurt each other. Divorcing the church is a mark of immaturity – there is no perfect church to escape to. The sooner we give up the illusion that a church must be perfect in order to love it, the sooner we quit pretending and start admitting we’re all imperfect and need grace – the beginning of real community.

+ CHOOSE to encourage rather than criticize

When you criticize what another believer is doing in faith and from a sincere conviction, you are interfering with God’s business. Whenever I judge another believer I loose fellowship with God, I expose my own pride and insecurity, I set myself up to be judged by God and I harm the fellowship of the church. That’s the devil’s job – anytime we do the same, we’re being duped into doing Satan’s work for him.

+ REFUSE to listen to gossip

Passing on information when you are neither part of the problem nor the solution (Don’t we all do this…?) Gossip is like accepting stolen property – it makes you just as guilty of the crime. People who gossip cannot be trusted – if they gossip to you they will gossip about you. Troublemakers listen to troublemakers.

+ PRACTICE God’s method for conflict resolution


If a fellow believer hurts you go and tell him or her. Private confrontation is always the first step. If you’re unable to work things out between the two of you, the next step is to take one or two witnesses to help confirm the problem and reconcile the relationship. If the person (or you) still refuses to listen after that, you should treat that person like an unbeliever. (Strive to get them back in God’s love)



+ SUPPORT your spiritual leaders

Spiritual leaders often have the unpleasant task of serving as mediator between hurt, conflicting or immature members – the impossible task of trying to make everyone happy. Contribute to the joy of their leadership, not to its drudgery – they will one day stand before God and give account of how well they watched over you – and you will give account of how well you followed. (I again remind that one should be wary of leaders with personal agendas and skewed motives – they are after all also only fragile humans) We protect the fellowship when we honour those who authentically serve us by leading purely.


GOD blesses churches that are unified. The truth is, EVERYONE needs and wants to be loved, and when people find a church (a group of believers, not the building or communal trappings) where members (contributors not attenders) genuinely love and care for each other, you would have to lock the doors to keep them away!

Have a fruitful day under God’s love and guidance. ~ Stafford

“A song of ascents. I call on the LORD in my distress, and he answers me.” -Psalm 120:1 

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Day 20 - Restoring broken fellowship


Relationships in fellowship are always worth restoring

Make the effort to maintain them whenever there is a rift, a hurt or a conflict. Broken fellowship is a disgraceful testimony to unbelievers. If you want to be known as a child of God, you must learn to be a peacemaker. Jesus said, "Blessed are those who WORK for peace...” - peacemaking is one of the most important skills you can develop.



Sometimes we need to avoid conflict. Sometimes we need to create conflict. Sometimes we need to resolve conflict. To know when, why and how we need to continually pray for the Holy Spirit's guidance.

HOW TO RESTORE A RELATIONSHIP

+ TALK to God before talking to the person

All your relationships would go smoothly if you would just pray more about them - use prayer to ventilate vertically - God is listening. Most conflict is rooted in unmet needs - and some can only be met by God (your efforts to resolve those are therefore futile) Go to God first.
  
+ ALWAYS take the initiative

Whether you are the offender or the offended God expects you to make the first move. Delay only deepens resentment and makes matters worse. In conflict, time heals nothing - only causes hurt to fester. Acting quickly also reduces the spiritual damage to you.
  
+ SYMPATHIZE with their feelings

Before attempting to solve any disagreement, listen to people's feelings. Don't try to talk people out of how they feel, let them unload emotionally without being defensive. People don't care what we know until they know that we care. It is a sacrifice to patiently absorb the anger of others, especially if it's unfounded.
  
+ CONFESS your part of the conflict

Begin by admitting your own mistakes and sin. Since we all have blind spots, you may need to ask a third party to help you evaluate your actions in the dispute. Confession is a powerful tool for reconciliation, it diffuses the other person's anger and disarms their attack - just honestly own up to any part you have played in the conflict - Accept responsibility, ask for forgiveness.

 + ATTACK the problem, not the person

Fix the problem, DON'T, fix the blame. In resolving conflict, HOW you say it is as important as WHAT you say. - say it offensively and it will be received defensively. You are never persuasive when you're abrasive. For the sake of fellowship use only helpful words, so that what you say will do good to those who hear you.



+ COOPERATE as much as possible

Peace has a price tag. Do your best to compromise, adjust to others and show preferences to what they need.
  
+ EMPHASIZE reconciliation, not resolution

Reconciliation focuses on the relationship, while resolution focuses on the problem. When we focus on reconciliation, the problem loses significance and often becomes irrelevant. God expects unity - we can walk arm-in-arm without seeing eye-to-eye. You may bury the hatchet, not necessarily the issue - continue discussing and debating the issue in a spirit of harmony.
   
These steps are simple, but they are not easy. That’s why God calls peacemakers His children. May God bless and enhance your day, with much love - Stafford

“For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.” -2 Timothy 1:7 

Monday, February 27, 2012

Newborn facts...


This small, squirming object is a newborn baby. One of the thousands born daily, he resembles every other newborn. Yet he deserves attention, for there never has been and never will be another baby exactly like him. He is a brand-new person, different from either of, his parents and something other than a blend of both. He is unique.
Biologically, however, newborn babies do have common characteristics: He looks top-heavy, and is. His head is remarkably large - almost one quarter the length of his entire body. Most of his weight is concentrated in this big head and in the other disproportionately large part of his body, his abdomen. The reason for the latter is his relatively large liver, which has been storing iron for the next few months when there will not be enough of it in his diet.
The baby’s arms and legs are ridiculously short. Its bones, composed mainly of cartilage, are soft and almost rubbery. Its backbone is so elastic that, if the infant were put in traction, it could be stretched out another couple of centimetres. Its wrist-bones are not even formed. There is an open spot in the skull called the fontanelle, but it is covered by an extremely tough membrane which protects the brain. Its muscles are poorly developed; they haven’t been used much, and are soft and flabby - a condition which the baby sets out to rectify almost immediately by doing an extraordinary amount of squirming.
Its eyes are blue-grey, no matter what colour they are going to be. They will not acquire their individual pigmentation for another 90 days or longer. The baby’s temperature at birth is slightly higher than normal, and since it’s naked and wet, and since evaporation produces sudden chilling, the baby must be swathed in blankets almost immediately in order to survive. A human baby is, in fact, the most helpless of all newborn creatures.
Yet this baby is considerably tougher than it appears. It has already lived through a good deal. The Chinese system of counting age gives a baby credit at birth for having lived a full year. It considers the nine months of pre-natal life as equivalent to any subsequent 12, and certainly they were as eventful. None of the changes in store for the newborn quite compares with the drama of his development from a single fertilized cell to a well-organized 200,000-million cell individual.
That is the main thing to understand about the baby’s birth: it is not an abrupt beginning. Its heart has been beating, or instance, for more than eight months. The general form and structure of its body took shape some six and a half months ago. After five months of development the baby weighed only half a kilogram, but by then it possessed all the 12,000 million or more nerve cells that make up the human nervous system. The baby could wiggle, stretch, flex its arms and legs, and move its head.
Except for crying, yawning and sneezing, which it can perform for the first time today, the baby has been practising this entire repertoire for months - sometimes with marked vigour, of this its care-giver / mother is well aware. Even though the baby has never breathed air before, its chest has been moving in motions very similar to breathing for the past four months. If the baby is sucking its thumb today, it is probably not for the first time - many babies suck their thumbs before birth. As a result, the baby’s sucking ability is almost always first-rate when it is born.
The newborn baby has to cry within a minute or two after delivery in order to start breathing air. This cry is an emergency gasp, a bellows-like action of its diaphragm which sucks air into its lungs and drives the fluids out of its nose and throat. The noise the baby makes is entirely incidental; its vocal chords just happen to be there, and the air rushing past them sets them in motion.
Before birth, the oxygen it needed reached the baby through its umbilical cord. This was connected to that amazing filtering device, the placenta, which allowed oxygen - together with other things, including glucose, calcium, iron, fatty acids, salt and hormones - to pass by osmosis from its mother’s blood stream into its own and at the same time kept its blood and the mother’s from mixing.

At the moment he was born his blood began following a new route: a bypass in its heart, which would never be needed again, started to close and sent its blood pulsing into its lungs. And the first crying gasp, bringing air into its lungs for the first time, brought oxygen to the place where its blood could pick it up.

From its second breath on, the baby’s breathing was under the control of its brain’s respiratory centre. The baby had changed, in a matter of seconds, from an aquatic to an aerific environment. This awe-inspiring moment may be the greatest marvel of human birth.
Now, having established breathing with its first cry, the baby is prepared to cry for a host of other reasons - hunger, followed closely by wet a wet bottom, being the two main ones. Then, as the baby learns that crying brings help, it will start to develop a vocabulary of shrieks, whines and grunts, which its mother / care-giver soon understands, even if no one else does.
Besides crying, the baby can grimace, smile and scowl. But its expressions only seem to have meaning. They are attributable to its rapidly adjusting nervous system; and is simply trying on various faces for size rather than portraying emotion.
The baby also has a number of reflex reactions to discomfort or pain. It can shiver. If it is pinched it will draw away. Put a baby face down and it will turn its head to one side so that it can continue to breathe. The newborn hates to have its head held still or its hands held against its sides; in either case it will struggle with surprising violence to work itself free.
The baby’s strength on such occasions is comparable to its extraordinary grasping ability. Its grip is so strong that if a rod is put into its hand it will grasp it and hold on while it is lifted right off its bed. It may hang from it with a one-hand grasp for as long as 30 seconds. This grasp is a pure reflex; it will disappear in a few months when the baby begins to co-ordinate its hand movements with what it sees.
A newborn can blink its eyes, although it doesn’t do so until its eyeball is actually touched. It will take time for this protective reflex to develop to the point of making it blink, as grown-ups do, when somebody makes a threatening motion. Perceiving light is about the best its eyes can do, although within 60 days it will be able to recognize a number of familiar objects.
Probably the first sensations the baby feels, however vaguely, have to do with its sense of touch. But it is the baby’s skin that is sensitive rather than its fingertips. When, after a few weeks, it begins to explore the world around and surrounds, it will start by feeling things with the palms of its hands, not its fingers. As a more reliable method, the baby will try to taste things, for of its five senses taste is the best developed. While it may not distinguish clearly among sweet, sour, salt and bitter, the baby reacts to them – it likes them or it doesn’t - about as emphatically as an adult.
But this newborn baby amounts to much more than all these physical facts. It brings something unique into the world: its heredity; present physically in every cell of its small body in the form of genes. These genes are its inborn endowment, not only from its parents but from all its ancestors back through history. They have determined not only its sex, its size and how much its nose today looks like its mother’s, but they have directed the baby’s development from a single cell - a cell startlingly similar to the first cell of every other creature - into a human being rather than, say, a dog.
Above all, they have established the baby’s unique personality. No matter what its future environmental influences may be, it is the only person in the whole world with exactly this set of genes.
But the most impressive and accurate way of looking at this newborn baby is to consider it as a being in the midst of an almost incomprehensibly rapid process of growth. The baby’s capacity for development is unparalleled. For most of the coming year its rate of learning will be slightly inferior to that of a baby chimpanzee. From then on, however, the contest is over. After age one it will race ahead into a realm where no other creature can follow. Its power to perceive and to act will go on growing for decades, and its power to understand will increase until the day it dies. At the pinnacle of its capabilities its brain will be able not only to assimilate an infinite variety of ideas but to arrange them in patterns and draw conclusions and proceed, perhaps, towards answering the greatest of all questions: “What is Man?”
Oh, how wondrous – GOD is GREAT – indeed awesome! ~Stafford

Day 19 - Cultivating community

Community requires commitment



Only the Holy Spirit can create real fellowship between believers. It takes both God's power and our effort to produce a loving community of believers. Unfortunately, many people grow up in families with unhealthy relationships, so they lack the relational skills needed for real fellowship.





CULTIVATING COMMUNITY TAKES HONESTY

While it is much easier to remain silent when others around us are harming themselves or others with a sinful pattern, it is not the loving thing to do. Many fellowships have been sabotaged by fear - no one had the courage to speak up in the group while a member's life falls apart. Many church fellowships and small groups remain superficial because they are afraid of conflict.

Real fellowship; whether in a marriage, a friendship, or in a church; depends on frankness. Until you care enough to confront and resolve the underlying barriers, you will never grow close to each other. The Bible tells us that there is a right time and a right way to do everything. "Better devastation and embarrassment than damnation" it says.

CULTIVATING COMMUNITY TAKES HUMILITY

Pride builds walls between people; humility builds bridges. We receive God's grace by humbly admitting that we need it. We develop humility by admitting our weaknesses, by being patient with others' weaknesses, by being open to correction and by allowing others the limelight. Humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.

CULTIVATING COMMUNITY TAKES COURTESY


Courtesy is respecting our differences, being considerate of each other's feelings and being patient with people who irritate us. 'Difficult' persons usually have special emotional needs, deep insecurities, irritating mannerisms or poor social skills. God put these people in our midst for both their benefit and ours. In a family acceptance is based on the fact that we belong to each other, so it all is an opportunity for growth and a test of fellowship. We all have quirks and annoying traits. But community has nothing to do with compatibility. Real community happens when people know it is safe to share their doubts and fears without being judged.



CULTIVATING COMMUNITY TAKES CONFIDENTIALITY

People will open up in a safe environment of warm acceptance and trusted confidentiality and share their deepest hurts, needs and mistakes. Confidentiality does not mean keeping silent - it means what 'happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas'... God is very clear that we compelled to confront those who cause division among believers. They may get mad and take affront, and leave your group or church; but the fellowship of the church is more important than any individual.

CULTIVATING COMMUNITY TAKES FREQUENCY
We are to develop the habit of meeting together. You have to spend a lot of time to build deep relationships. Community isn't built on convenience but on the conviction that we need it for spiritual health. The first Christians met together every single day!

MAKE A GROUP COVENANT:

We will share our true feelings - authenticity

We will encourage each other - mutuality

We will support each other - sympathy

We will forgive each other - mercy

We will speak the truth - honesty

We will admit our weaknesses - humility

We will respect our differences - courtesy

We will not gossip - confidentiality

We will make the group a priority - frequency



It means giving up our self-centeredness; the benefits of sharing life together far outweigh any costs, and prepare us for Heaven. Much love ~ Stafford



“Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.”

Sunday, February 26, 2012

Judgement: surgically removed...



A doctor entered the hospital in hurry after being called in for an urgent surgery. He answered the call ASAP, changed his clothes and went directly to the surgery block.


He found the boy’s father going and coming in the hall waiting for the doctor.


Once seeing him, the dad yelled: “Why did you take all this time to come? Don’t you know that my son’s life is in danger? Don’t you have the sense of responsibility?”

The doctor smiled and said: “I am sorry, I wasn’t in the hospital and I came the fastest I could after receiving the call... And now, I wish you’d calm down so that I can do my work”

“Calm down?! What if your son was in this room right now, would you calm down? If your own son dies now what will you do??” said the father angrily

The doctor smiled again and replied: “I will say what Job said in the Holy Bible “From dust we came and to dust we return, blessed be the name of God”. Doctors cannot prolong lives. Go and intercede for your son, we will do our best by God’s grace”

“Giving advice when we’re not concerned is so easy”, murmured the father.

The surgery took some hours after which the doctor went out happy, “Thank God! Your son is saved!”

And without waiting for the father’s reply he carried on his way running. “If you have any question, ask the nurse!!”

“Why is he so arrogant? He couldn’t wait some minutes so that I ask about my son’s state” Commented the father when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor left.

The nurse answered, tears coming down her face: “His son died yesterday in a road accident, he was in the burial when we called him for your son’s surgery. And now that he saved your son’s life, he left running to finish his son’s burial.”

NEVER JUDGE ANYONE because you never know how their life is and as to what is happening or what they’re going through. 

I am WOMAN... HEAR ME (full-stop)



Few women really think they’re beautiful - or beautiful enough. For example, a married woman might gaze at pictures of her wedding, when she was a slim young woman in love with her new husband. Now when she looks in the mirror, she sees an overweight mother of two. Her clothes are actually only one size larger than they were on her wedding day 10 years earlier, but she sees herself as fat.

Despite decades of feminism, women get the message that it still pays to be beautiful, just as in the days of fairy tales. With all the pressure to be young and attractive, even the most beautiful women can feel that they come up short, and go to pieces when they gain a few kilograms or notice a few wrinkles. It can be difficult for a man to understand why a woman doesn’t think she’s pretty when she looks perfectly fine to him.



But telling her she’s beautiful in some vague way doesn’t help. She needs a specific compliment “I like that haircut” or “You look great in red.” By focusing on the details, a man demonstrates that he is paying attention, really looking at her, and this is the kind of comment that can boost a woman’s self-esteem.
The corollary is not to answer with complete honesty questions such as “Am I too fat?” or “Do I look old?” Instead, answer with love. Positive feedback gives a woman incentive to dress up, which in turn can help keep romance alive.

Women need a sympathetic ear. A simple conversation can be a different event to a man and a woman. For a man, a conversation is a way to define a problem, debate the rights and wrongs, and find a solution. To do that, he may repeatedly interrupt the woman until she “understands” the point he’s making.
But a woman would rather have a friendly ear from a man, than advice. Women more often view conversation as a way of sharing their emotions with the listener. They talk until they feel better. One woman I met, who commutes a long distance to work, returned home during a violent thunderstorm and told her husband how nervous it made her to drive on back roads in the storm. “Well, you should take the freeway,” replied her husband. “It’s an extra 24 kilometres, but it’s worth it.”
The woman knew the location of the freeway. She wanted from her husband an acknowledgment of her anxiety - “I know it can be pretty lonely out there” - accompanied, perhaps, by a welcome- home hug.
A man who wants to get through to a woman conversationally needs to tap into emotions rather than solutions. And, often, that can mean just listening.

Men stay away from personal and emotional issues, which is exactly where women like to steer their conversations. Women are interested in the players - one another. The men are interested in the action. Neither is right or wrong. Both partners - but especially men - should be aware that words are typically perceived more negatively than they were intended. A mild compliment will be thought of as a neutral statement; and a neutral statement will be heard as negative. Positive statements can prevent many misunderstandings and mean a lot to relational happiness.

An excellent exercise for couples is to take extra time to talk about themselves - not about the children or their jobs. For half an hour she talks about herself and he listens. Then he talks about himself for half an hour. These hours of communication interrupt the usual, practical dialogue between partners, allowing them to discover each other anew. Eventually it can bring back the excitement of the courtship days when they were first getting acquainted.




The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows and the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years

When we enter into any kind of relationship, be it friendship or a romantic relationship. Each person gives to the other, the gift of trust and love, this is when we can be at our most vulnerable, we can feel betrayed if something goes wrong. Treat each other well, give each other the compassion, understanding, respect, and honour that you would wish to receive yourself. Each and every day the bond will strengthen itself between you, the gift of friendship is the best gift indeed.
Just a messenger... ~ Stafford xx


Day 18 - Experiencing life together


Life is meant to be shared

The Bible calls this shared experience FELLOWSHIP. It includes unselfish loving, honest sharing, practical serving, sympathetic comforting, etc. Fellowship, unlike worship, is better achieved in a smaller group - maximum of about ten. Jesus ministered directly to twelve Disciples, He knew that in more a larger group someone would stop participating (usually the quietest person) and a few would dominate.



The Body of Christ is really a collection of these smaller groups within the church - home cells (fellowships), Sunday school class, Bible study, etc.

IN REAL FELLOWSHIP PEOPLE EXPERIENCE AUTHENTICITY

That means genuine heart to heart, gut-level sharing in honesty and humility; instead of pretending and role-playing with superficial politeness and shallow conversation - such attitudes are the death of real fellowship. Real fellowship happens when people get honest about who they are and what is happening in their lives. It requires both courage and humility; facing our fears of exposure, rejection and being hurt again...


IN REAL FELLOWSHIP PEOPLE EXPERIENCE MUTUALITY

That is the art of giving and receiving. Mutuality is the heart of fellowship: building reciprocal relationships, sharing responsibilities, helping each other. We are more consistent in our faith when others walk with us. The Bible commands mutual accountability, mutual encouragement, mutual serving and mutual honouring. (Who doesn't enjoy a bit of recognition and appreciation now and then?)

IN REAL FELLOWSHIP PEOPLE EXPERIENCE SYMPATHY

Today some call this 'empathy', but the biblical word is 'sympathy'; which meets the human needs to be understood and having your feelings validated. Self-pity dries up sympathy for others. Every time you understand and affirm someone's feelings, you build fellowship. The deepest most intense level is the FELLOWSHIP OF SUFFERING; we enter into each other's pain and grief and carry each other's burdens.  
When circumstances crush us to the point that our faith falters, that's when we need believing friends the most.


IN REAL FELLOWSHIP PEOPLE EXPERIENCE MERCY

Fellowship is a place of grace. We all need mercy, because we all stumble and fall and require help getting back on track. (A good friend provided me with such impetus recently) You can't have fellowship without forgiveness - letting go of the past. Unlike trust, which has to do with future behaviour, forgiveness must be immediate. (Trust is rebuilt over time and requires a track record) If someone hurts you repeatedly, God commands you forgive then instantly (very hard to do). You are not expected to trust them immediately and you definitely are not expected to continue allowing them to hurt you.

Let’s hope the aforesaid has made you hungry to experience the authenticity, mutuality and mercy of real fellowship. Love you more... ~ Stafford

Thursday, February 23, 2012

Day 17 - A place to belong


You are called to belong, not just believe

It is not natural to be alone. We are created for community, fashioned for fellowship and formed for a family - none of us can fulfill God's purposes by ourselves. In God's family you are connected to every other believer and we will belong to each other for eternity.


All believers are 'members' of the Body of Christ. The 'Body' we're talking about is Christ's body of chosen people. Membership is often reduced to adding your name to a roll, with no requirements or expectations. We need to recover and practice the biblical meaning of membership. The church is a body (the people), not a building; an organism, not an organisation. (When you say, 'I went to church', it should mean, 'I communed with other believers')

You were created for a specific role but we miss out on this purpose if we're not attached to a living local church. We discover our role in life through our relationships with others. Disconnected and cut off from the lifeblood of a local body, your spiritual life will wither and eventually cease to exist. This Church is indestructible and will exist for eternity. It will outlive this universe and so will your role in it. God commands us to love the Church; sadly many believers use the church but don't love it.

YOUR LOCAL FELLOWSHIP

The Bible, almost totally, uses the word 'church' to refer to a local, visible congregation. It says a believer without a church home is like an organ without a body, a sheep without a flock (Nemo) or a child without a family. It is an unnatural state. The Bible offers many compelling reasons for being committed and active in a local fellowship.

WHY YOU NEED A CHURCH FAMILY

+ A church family identifies you as a genuine believer
When we come together in love as a church family from different backgrounds, race and social status, it is a powerful witness to the world - Together we are His Body.

+ A church family moves you out of self-centred isolation
It is the classroom for learning how to get along in God's family by practicing unselfish, sympathetic love. Only regular contact with ordinary, imperfect believers can teach us real fellowship and give us the experience of the truth in being connected and dependent on each other. 1 John 3:16 "Jesus Christ laid down His life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers".

+ A church family helps you develop spiritual muscle
We are commanded to:
love each other, pray for each other, encourage each other, greet each other, serve each other, admonish each other, teach each other, accept each other, honour each other, forgive each other, submit to each other, be devoted to each other, bear each other's burdens, etc - this is biblical membership! It may seem easier to be holy when no one else is around to frustrate your preferences; if there is no one to challenge us; but this is false. We grow faster and stronger by learning from each other and being accountable to each other.

+ The Body of Christ (remember we're talking about Christ's chosen people) needs you
This is called your 'ministry', and God has gifted you for this assignment. In your local fellowship you discover, develop and use your gifts. (You may already be doing good on your own with sectarian organisations; that is however to be considered an additional part to your ministry) Jesus has not promised to build your ministry; He has promised to build His church.

+ You will share in Christ's mission in the world
Now that Jesus is no longer on earth, the church is God's instrument on earth and we are to carry it together as members of Christ's Body. He works through us in the world and we each have a contribution to make.

+ A church family will help keep you from backsliding
None of us are immune to temptation. You and I are capable of any sin. We are called and commanded to be involved in each other's lives. If you know people who have wandered from God's truth, don't write them off. Go after them. Get them back. (Just beware you don't compromise yourself in the pursuit!) A related benefit of the local church is this that God gives shepherd leaders the responsibility to guard, protect, defend and care for the spiritual welfare of His flock. Satan loves detached believers, unplugged from the life of the Body, isolated from God's family; because he knows that they are defenseless and powerless against his tactics.

IT'S ALL IN THE CHURCH

A healthy church is essential to living a healthy life. He created the church to meet your deepest needs:

~ purpose to live for
~ people to live with
~ principles to live by
~ profession to live out
~ power to live on

+ Worship helps you to focus on God
+ Fellowship helps you to face life's problems
+ Discipleship helps to fortify your faith
+ Ministry helps you to find your talents
+ Evangelism helps fulfill your mission

YOUR CHOICE

When we are born again spiritually, you automatically become part of God's universal family; but you also need to become a member of a local expression of this family. The difference between being a CHURCH ATTENDER and a CHURCH MEMBER is commitment. (Personally I have always subscribed to the logic that, if my heart is not in it, it is better to absent myself and explore the reason or remedy the blockage for my dissent within myself - than to effectively mock God) Attenders are sideline spectators and consumers; who only want the benefits of a church without sharing the responsibility. Members get involved in the ministry and contribute their time, talents and efforts.

To join a LIVING local church family proves that you are committed to your spiritual brothers and sisters in reality, not just theory. You must love real people and not ideal people. You are called to love imperfect sinners, just as God does. (Remember? Worship isn't practiced for what YOU can get out of it; it's practiced for the honour and glory of God!) Life is more than just commitment to Christ; it includes commitment to other believers. You become a disciple of Christ by committing to yourself to Christ; you become a church member by committing yourself to a group of believers. The first decision brings salvation; the second brings fellowship.

Remember His promise: Matthew 18:20 - "For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them." Isn't that absolutely marvelous - Stafford


Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Speak... speech... talk... I'm listening


There’s a lot more to language than meets the eye. Take the word admiral, for instance. Who would imagine that its direct ancestor wore baggy trousers and a jewelled turban and lolled around on divans gobbling Turkish delight? Yet such is the case, for the English word admiral descends, via Old French, from the Arabic word amir, meaning “commander.”
Words travel as tirelessly as people. They travel in the knapsacks of armies or in the manuals of computer salesmen. They travel with missionaries and refugees, with troubadours and film makers. They cross oceans, jump ship and settle in foreign lands.
English has had the most spectacular success, both as a globetrotter and as a haven for travel—stained visitors. Unlike Latin - derived tongues such as French, Spanish or Italian, with more rigid grammatical rules and a reluctance to borrow from others, Anglo-Saxon (or English) has long had wide-open immigration policies. It emerged from the Norman Conquest bare of frills and grammatical niceties - and ravenously hungry for new means of expression. And in gobbling up words from every source, English gave them a new vigour.
Consider how gusto, a modest Italian settler meaning “taste,” took on its present hearty, lip-smacking, beer-drinking personality. Morsel, which means a delectable tit-bit, owes its parentage to the French morcel, meaning simply “piece.” The ancestor of knight was the lowly German Knecht, or “man-at- arms,” who trailed a humble spear behind the blue-blood, the mounted Ritter, or “rider.” Somehow Knecht muscled its way to new social status once it reached English shores.
English is better equipped than most other languages to assimilate foreign words because of its loose, half-breed structure: one of its parents is Germanic (via Old English), the other Latin (largely via the church and Norman French).
Like humans, words go in for reverse migrations, returning to the mother country often so transformed that they are not even recognized as native sons. Such a word is pedigree, long an English citizen but transplanted to France and pronounced peh-dee-gray. Few French-speakers realize that this seemingly alien word is as French as bouillabaisse. In medieval genealogical tables the accepted shorthand for “begat” was the mark > (as in “John and Mary Smith > Peter Smith”). The mark was known as pie de grue, or “crane’s foot,” and over the years English accents chipped away at the French expression until it had acquired its present shape and sound. When it travelled back to France in the nineteenth century, the word pedigree was accepted by the French as a term coined by foreigners obsessed with bloodlines of the landed gentry, of racehorses and of retrievers.

Largely for reasons of national pride, the French often try mightily to deport foreign words. If that fails, they attempt native replacements. The French Academy, a distinguished body that holds itself responsible for maintaining the chastity of the national tongue, labours untiringly towards this goal, coming up with such unhappy coinages as fin de seinaine (“end of week”) as an attempt to dislodge the unspeakably foreign weekend. Alas, it’s an uphill struggle for the French, partly because many of today’s new words come from space, computers and other areas of advanced technology dominated by experts speaking English, Russian and Japanese. Generally, though, efforts to repel foreign boarders just don’t work. For example, know-how (as in le know-how technologique) is now solidly entrenched in France. And when confronted with brinkmanship, coined to describe the foreign-policy philosophy of US Secretary of State John Foster Dulles, an exhausted French Academy threw up its-collective hands. The language just didn’t have that kind of shorthand capacity; its solution? Highly indigestible La politique du bord du gouffre, literally “the politics of the border of the gulf.” Phew!
Perhaps the last word should be left to the Italians. What was the smooth-flowing Italian language to make of the hideously barbaric Shakespearean? That tweedy sh, those baggy diphthongs, that spiky k. Mamma mia! An impossible dilemma? Not -to the Italians A snip-snip here and there, a discreet consignment of that hideous k to the rubbish bin, and presto! The gawky tourist easily became a lithe Italian - scespiriano, pronounced shess-pirr-eeAH-no. Yet another foreign invader had succumbed to Italy’s beguiling and civilizing charm. (J. Leggatt)

Just so, I think all languages are wonderful tools; essential to getting the world to be as one – and if all else fails the universal language of LOVE is always an unfailing stalwart… ~ Stafford

Day 16 – What matters most


Life is all about love

Because God is love, it is in loving that we are most like Him. It is the foundation of every command He has given. God wants us to love everyone, but He is particularly concerned that we learn to love others in His family. God wants His family to be known for its love more than anything else - it is our greatest witness to the world. We have some tough work to do here on earth to prepare ourselves for an eternity of loving.

THE BEST USE OF LIFE IS LOVE

Love cannot be learned in isolation. You have to be around people - irritating, imperfect, frustrating people. Love is not a good part of life; it is the most important part. It shouldn't be forced neither should it be a duty nor tool for affirmation or acceptance; it should be the natural foundation of your relationships with everyone. (flipping difficult!) Relationships must have priority in your life.

LIFE without love is really worthless~

God says relationships are what life is all about - Four of the 10 Commandments deal with love for God, the other six deals with relationships to other people. The 1st and Greatest Commandment is - "Love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, soul, mind and strength. The 2nd is  - "Love your neighbour as you love yourself". (It is a sin against God not to love yourself, because by not looking after yourself and being sound and stable and healthy - you are of no use to anybody else, and to God's commandments.) Relationships, not achievements or the acquisition of things, are what matters most in life. The point of life is learning to love - God and people. Life minus love equals zero...

LOVE will last forever~

Love leaves a legacy. Love is the secret of a lasting heritage. When life on earth is ending, people don't surround themselves with objects (although I have heard of some weird burial requests); we want people we love and have relationships with present. Wisdom is learning THAT truth sooner rather than later. Don't wait until you're on your deathbed to realise what matters more!

WE will be evaluated on our love~

Love is what we will be evaluated on in eternity. God measures spiritual maturity by the quality of our relationships. When you transfer into eternity, you will leave everything else behind. All you're taking with you is your character. You can therefore never love enough - we don't know, we'll never learn, until we try under God's guidance.


THE BEST EXPRESSION OF LOVE IS TIME

The more time you give to something, the more you reveal its importance and value to you. Time is your most precious gift because you only have a set amount of it - you are effectively giving a portion of your life. So we must prove our relationships are important by investing time in them. In our relationships love is spelt 'T-I-M-E'. Love is focused attention and it concentrates so intently on another that you forget yourself at that moment - it says I value you enough to give you my most precious asset - my time. You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving. Love means giving up - yielding my preferences, comfort, goals security, money energy or time for the benefit of another.


THE BEST TIME TO LOVE IS NOW

Procrastination is a legitimate response to a trivial task; but because love is what matters most, it takes top priority. You don't know how long you will have the opportunity to express love. Circumstances change. People die. Children grow up. You have no guarantee of tomorrow. If you want to express love, you had better do it now!

THE BEST USE OF LIFE IS LOVE. THE BEST EXPRESSION OF LOVE IS TIME. THE BEST TIME TO LOVE IS NOW.

What more can I say..? I love you right now..! ~ Stafford

“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” -1 John 4:18